Presentations and Quizzes will be added as lessons are taught in class.
Session Overview
Session 1: Conflict is a slippery slope.
Quiz
- There are three main responses to conflict.
- Escape - Get away from conflict
- Run Away from the person we are quarreling with
- Blame Game - blame others for the problem, pretending we did nothing wrong
- Denial - pretending the conflict does not exist
- Attack - Used to put pressure on others to get our own way
- Put Downs - Attack with harsh and cruel words
- Gossip - Talk about others behind their backs to damage their reputation or get others on our side
- Fight - Use physical force to get our way
- Work-It-Out
- Overlook an Offense - Deciding to forgive the wrong action against you
- Talk-It-Out - Resolve the conflict by going directly to the other person to talk it out together
- Coaching - Asking a wise person how to handle the conflict
- Mediation - Ask someone to meet with both of you to help you talk together
- Arbitration - Both parties talking to a person in authority who will decide a solution
- Escape - Get away from conflict
Quiz
Session 2: Selfishness can cause conflict.
Quiz
- Where does conflict start?
- Selfish Desires
- Pride
- Envy
- Greed
- Selfishness
- Fear of others
- Self Pity
- Laziness
- Jealousy
- Unselfish Desires
- Love
- Patience
- Kindness
- Gentleness
- Selfish Desires
Quiz
Session 3: Choices have consequences.
Session 4: Wise-way choices are better than my-way choices.
Session 5: The blame game makes conflict worse.
Session 6: Conflict is an opportunity.
Session 7: The 5 A's can resolve conflict.
Session 8: Forgiveness is a choice.
Session 9: It's never too late to start doing what's right.
Session 10: Think before you speak.
Session 11: Respectful communication is more likely to be heard.
Session 12: A respectful appeal can prevent conflict.
- Good Choices = Good Consequences
- Bad Choices = Bad Consequences
Session 4: Wise-way choices are better than my-way choices.
- My-Way Choices
- Selfish Desire
- Bad Choice
- Bad Consequence
- Bad Feeling
- Wise-Way Choices
- Unselfish Desire
- Good Choice
- Good Consequence
- Good Feeling
Session 5: The blame game makes conflict worse.
- Blame
- Cover Up
- Make Excuses
- Pretend
- Lie
Session 6: Conflict is an opportunity.
- Develop Character
- Resist Negative Feelings
- Respond Positively
- Imitate others who show good character
- Consider the needs of others
- Love
- Do Good
- Encourage
- Think
- Grow to be better, not bitter
- Recognize your need for help
- Admit your wrongs
- Practice new attitudes and actions
Session 7: The 5 A's can resolve conflict.
- Admit what you did wrong
- Apologize for how your choice affected someone else
- Accept the consequences for your choices
- Ask for forgiveness for what you have done wrong from the people you harmed
- Alter your choices in the future
Session 8: Forgiveness is a choice.
- Four false ideas
- You need to feel like forgiving before you can really forgive
- Forgiveness means forgetting about what someone did that hurt you
- Forgiveness excuses the other person's harmful behavior
- Forgiveness depends on getting a guarantee that someone won't do the same wrong thing again.
- Four forgiveness promises
- Good thought
- Hurt you not
- Gossip never
- Friends forever
Session 9: It's never too late to start doing what's right.
- Stop what you are doing wrong and think carefully about how to make wiser choices
- Think about and list a variety of possible choices and their predictable consequences for the situation
- Act on your plan, thinking about your desire to do what is right
- Yea! - If your plan worked, celebrate
Session 10: Think before you speak.
- Pay attention to verbal and nonverbal messages
- Use "I" messages
- What to communicate
- Identify facts
- Explain thoughts
- Express Feelings
- Discuss plans
- Describe your needs or desires
- Express thanks and appreciation
- Confronting a person
- Look at yourself before confronting
- Overlook or confront?
- Needs vs. desires vs. demands
Session 11: Respectful communication is more likely to be heard.
- Four parts of communication
- Respectful words
- Respectful tone of voice
- Respectful body language
- Respectful listening
Session 12: A respectful appeal can prevent conflict.
- When to appeal
- You have made an unwise commitment
- You have new information
- You have been wrongly accused
- You have a personal preference
- You are concerned for someone else
- How to make an appeal
- Stop yourself from to choosing to respond in a way that will cause conflict
- Think about why you want to appeal and what words to use
- Appeal using "I" messages and questions to communicate facts, concerns, and preferences
- Respond respectfully